Adult Dating Stories, and Advice

I stumbled upon a post today at wordpress.com from a girl named Heather who was blogging about the issue of not being able to consider marriage because she can hardly find a worthy date. This seems to be a issue that I have been hearing from women I know, and many women around the world.

I found her link to an LDS guys that are dating for hire quite funny. I am guessing that LDS stands for latter day saints, and from her post I guess that her church requires that dating anyone who is not of the same faith is not permitted.

Aside from that requirement, I must wonder, what are the other things that women are looking for when they judge guys as being “good guys”. I know some good guys, and I have tried to play match maker with some of my friends, but I the girls I have talked to seem to have little interest in dating the “good guys” that I mention. They seem to be more interested in trying to find guys that are into motocross racing, or guys that are in bands and such.

So maybe I am missing the point, please fill me in. All of these girls who are looking for a date and actively seeking more dating options do not open their eyes to the people who I know are good guys, they are constantly complaining that there are not that many good guys available, but they actively seek guys that I myself would not put into the “good guys” category.

What am I missing?

I hoe the title doesn’t make me seem bad! This is advice that I found at the yahoo dating / relationship advice section. It does make sense. I think the title should be the first date should not cost a fortune, but then again, that wouldn’t get your attention would it?

I do agree with this article completely. It just doesn’t make sense to go all out on the first date. I have done the whole nine yards on a first date, and it’s not that that didn’t work out well, but I think it would have been better for the two of us if expectations were not made upon the amount of money being spent. A first date, and really the first several dates should be more about getting to know one another and not getting know how much someone is willing to go into debt to try and impress another.

email etiquette for online dating success - part one

I one read an article, that had some hints and tips for adult dating online, and the thing I remember most is the advice on the emails. Anyone who has had a profile on an adult dating site knows that sometimes you are left wondering where people are going with the language in their emails. It’s bad enough that you don’t get facial expressions to work with, and add to the fact that different people have different ways of talking and typing, you con sometimes be left wondering if things are going forward with the chances of the real life hook up.

I am not going to go into the nuances of the various ways to communicate via email. There are so many things to consider when reading (and writing) emails, it would take pages. There are a few things to consider when sending and receiving emails in regards to dating online however.

When you write an email, try to read it back to yourself without and inflections. Try to be a computer reading word for word, literally. Don’t bring your voice up and down like you would in normal conversation. Will the person getting you email be able to grasp what you are trying to say?

If you don’t know the person on the other end of the email very well, consider that they probably don’t know your personality well, and if you always speak with sarcasm, they most certainly will not read that sarcasm in your emails.

If you want to really test to see if your online dating communications are getting you closer to the offline dating scenario, write your messages with open ended questions. Give the other person the chance to write more than just a yes or no. If you want someone to continue messaging you and get to know you better always end your email with another question.

If you message someone with an answer and no question, then how are they to know that you want them to keep messaging you? By the same token if you get an email that have a simple answer and no further questions to lead you into further communication, you may have to take this as a polite way of answering you, but basically not inviting you to continue conversating.  At least they answered your email, most of the time they won’t. But don’t keep sending emails if all you get is answers and no request for further information.