Adult Dating Stories, and Advice

I found an article titles “Sex and the Single Mom: What a Mom Wants” at Web MD courtesy of Redbook.

I think this is one of the things applies to most women, single mom or not, although after reading her story I can see how it would apply to a woman who has kids and has to spend so much time making the plans. A few of my favorite quotes from the story:

A friend of mine once told me that to a single working mom, the sexiest words in the English language are “I’ll take care of it.”

 It wasn’t his touch or his kiss. No, what really did it for me was his words: He started to tell me of our plans. He’d made dinner reservations at a different type of restaurant each night so that I could experience various parts of London; he had gotten theater tickets; there was a museum show he thought I might like; there were walks he wanted to take me on. He presented all this in the sweetest, least overbearing way, and I was deeply impressed — and touched — that he had put so much thought and effort into it.

 …but what really allowed me to let go (in all ways!) was the way that Daniel had taken responsibility for all the niggling logistics I was so used to dealing with, freeing me to think of other things. Or better yet, not to think at all

 But those days (and nights) with him taught me something I was in danger of forgetting: that true romance blossoms with the ability to fully depend on another person, knowing you don’t have to do everything alone.

Now I must admit I am surprised that making plans resonated in her mind as more important than his touch, but after thinking about it, I guess it makes sense. From a man’s perspective I know it is quite stressful to make all the plans, fears of setting up something that she may not enjoy can leave you wondering if you should ask about all the things you are considering. I try to find as much about my potential date before making plans. Types of music and things she enjoys doing can make it a bit easier to scan the possibilities. After reading her story though, I imagine just having everything taken care of will make for a good date, even if all the activities are not exactly the ones she would have chosen, the act of not having to choose in itself can be a little vacation. I will remember to put aside my perfectionism when planning next time and offer a mini vacation for my next date.

This book is certainly selling well. It shows as Amazon ranked t#39 today, so it is definitely selling very well. From reading the description I have to bet that it is selling very well because the Game Book by Neil was very informative and very popular with guys that used the techniques within to get the confidence (or cockiness) to actually land some dates. From reading the description at Amazon I wonder if this book has any of what the first book did, or if it;s just an easy way for the author to make sales using his reputation from the popular first book.

I doubt there will be as much new information contained within, although I may get a copy and find out I’m wrong.

I tend to look for something I can get out of books, and the Game is one of those that some people may read like a bible or instruction manual for how to score better with strangers, I am not one of those people. I did enjoy the tips on body language, and I found the opening story heart warming, but I have yet to read the whole book. I am not a big fan of using techniques to psycho persuade girls into intimate relations. I prefer to be completely honest and genuine, because that’s what I want from a woman.

If you want to be fake and use techniques just to find an easy sack, you might as well go and find a prostitute or a stripper, because without being genuine and real you can not expect to get that in return, and even if you do, when your falsehoods are found out, that genuine real good person you have gotten will get rid of you. That is not to say the people who are looking for genuine relationships can’t learn some tips from books like the Game for better understanding of the dating game.

From reading some of the comments on Amazon, it seems that there are some tips in this Game sequel, but as one reviewer suggested, perhaps the sequel should be read first, then the game, and then several other books to learn more social skills and other perspectives. I like the way this guy thinks about it.

There appear to be several good books for learning tips about better dating available these days, but when it comes down to it, you gotta get out there and practice. Reading a thousand books on how to do pushups is not going to get you into any better shape, you need to do some, and practice anything you want to be good at.

Wether you are going out to a club to pick up chics, or have a girlfriend who likes to go out and kick it club style, learning some dance moves will certainly make it much more fun for you and her. Today I stumbled upon a club dance DVD just for men (the site also offers a couple for women), but the most impressive thing to me about their site is the free tips that explain some of the psychology of girls in bars.

1. Always have fun. Whether its hanging with your friends, throwing back shots, dancing, or just having a conversation, make sure you’re enjoying whatever you are doing.

2. Never just stand around scoping out the club for girls to talk or dance with. If they see you doing this you might as well go home. Night’s over. You have just been placed in the same category as nearly every other guy in the club and that is the “he’s just out searching for targets” label.

In their eyes you want to be the fun, cool guy who’s out having a great time enjoying himself, chilling with his friends, dancing, grabbing drinks by the bar - that guy!

NOT someone who looks bored and tired and generally in a bad mood - because girls just want to meet guys who are fun, social and can show them a great time dancing with them.

There are many more cool tips that I had not seen put into words before, I suggest checking out the free tips for men there.

The site offers the instructional DVDs that I have not see yet, although I am considering getting a copy to check out. If you can learn a few moves, even if not done well, you;ll be doing a thousand times better than all the wallflowers who never even approach the girls that want someone on the dance floor with them. If you are taking your girlfriend out on a date, even doing some half ass dance moves can make her happy, as long as you aren’t doing the chicken dance, so this DVD may have quite a bit of value in it.

If you have seen the moves in this DVD are they pretty current? I have some old hip hop dance videos from like a decade ago, and as to where I believe that learning all the different dances that you can is a good thing, because getting moving and some rhythm can help you pick up any new dance moves better, I would hate to spend $20 for a DVD that is teaching ancient moves, I’d rather find a used copy instead. So tell if you’ve seen this video and what you think about it.