Adult Dating Stories, and Advice

So we’ve been dating for a few months, a couple of months exclusive, now I have to wonder are things fading away, or is this just a time time since she’s suffered a recent family loss and a funeral. I feel like things between us are not the same, and now I wonder if there is something I have done that has made her mad, I wonder if I’m just being selfish?

She’s experienced the loss of someone real close to her, and had to suffer with hospital emergency rooms, surgery doctors, funeral planning, the wake and the burial. I’ve been available to her and tried to support her in any way I can. Perhaps there just hasn’t been enough time for her to get over the issues troubling her, and everything is okay with us. Perhaps I am being selfish, but there has been a few times when I have wondered if our dating was coming to an end.

When I have the feeling of lack of love and affection with her, perhaps I am just reading things wrong. I know that I deal with death and funerals different than most, and she is having a hard time with this recent change in her life. Perhaps if I just stick it out everything will work out fine and she will realize that I am here for her.

I certainly haven’t tried to initiate sex and passionate making out, it’s been only a week. But I can’t help to wonder if there is something more going on, I hadn’t even gotten a kiss or holding hands when we got to hang out and go places together. Maybe I am paranoid, or selfish, just not understanding how hard things are for her. Maybe things are fine. I wonder how long it will be before I know where are dating situation stands.

So I’m in falling for a girl that has kids from a previous relationship, and for the first time I find myself in a dating situation that I have no idea the proper way to handle. What is the proper etiquette for dating a girl with kids? The only thing I have to go by is a few lines in Jerry McGuire and an episode of weeds.

Anyways, the situation that threw for a loop…

So we have the first date where the kids will be joining us for dinner. I’m totally cool with this, I really like her a lot. I want to get her something, and by the time I get to find something for her, the flower shops are closed, so I stop by walgreens thinking I can get something there. Chocolate. She likes chocolate, and damn it is hard to find chocolate and coconut. Anyways, while looking through all the chocolate options I see a christmas pack with 6 pez candy dispensers and it makes me think, should I get something for the kids too?

Would that be weird? Inappropriate?  Would this make it look like I am trying to buy the affection of the kids? Would it be wrong not to get something for the kids?

I was stumped. I stood there an wondered. I actually had people at the store asking me if I needed help finding anything, but I couldn’t ask them what would be right.

I decided to go with a nice box of chocolate in a pretty package, but now I wonder in the future should I consider getting something for the kids?

Dating a milf is much more complicated that I imagined. Now I am wondering about all kinds of other things that could be coming up in this relationship. Are there any experts advising on this issue?

So what do you do, or really, how do you do it? I will be making another post about when or why on this subject. But let’s just say that you’ve made the decision to go exclusive, to tell the other people that you are dating that you are going exclusive with someone else. What is the best way to do this?

There are of course the considerations as to whether or not to use the phone, email, or in person meetings. Would the latter be a date to end future dating with the person in question? Then there are considerations like what to say and how to say it. I hate hurting people’s feelings, and certainly don’t want to break any hearts. I am just not sure exactly what to say or how to say it lightly. I believe the truth is paramount in any relationship, even those that are ending, or changing from dating / intimate relations to friends or no longer seeing one another.

What are your suggestions?