Adult Dating Stories, and Advice

This book is certainly selling well. It shows as Amazon ranked t#39 today, so it is definitely selling very well. From reading the description I have to bet that it is selling very well because the Game Book by Neil was very informative and very popular with guys that used the techniques within to get the confidence (or cockiness) to actually land some dates. From reading the description at Amazon I wonder if this book has any of what the first book did, or if it;s just an easy way for the author to make sales using his reputation from the popular first book.

I doubt there will be as much new information contained within, although I may get a copy and find out I’m wrong.

I tend to look for something I can get out of books, and the Game is one of those that some people may read like a bible or instruction manual for how to score better with strangers, I am not one of those people. I did enjoy the tips on body language, and I found the opening story heart warming, but I have yet to read the whole book. I am not a big fan of using techniques to psycho persuade girls into intimate relations. I prefer to be completely honest and genuine, because that’s what I want from a woman.

If you want to be fake and use techniques just to find an easy sack, you might as well go and find a prostitute or a stripper, because without being genuine and real you can not expect to get that in return, and even if you do, when your falsehoods are found out, that genuine real good person you have gotten will get rid of you. That is not to say the people who are looking for genuine relationships can’t learn some tips from books like the Game for better understanding of the dating game.

From reading some of the comments on Amazon, it seems that there are some tips in this Game sequel, but as one reviewer suggested, perhaps the sequel should be read first, then the game, and then several other books to learn more social skills and other perspectives. I like the way this guy thinks about it.

There appear to be several good books for learning tips about better dating available these days, but when it comes down to it, you gotta get out there and practice. Reading a thousand books on how to do pushups is not going to get you into any better shape, you need to do some, and practice anything you want to be good at.

From reading this story today from yahoo / AP:

Tequila will take another ‘Shot at Love’

Wed Jan 2, 6:09 PM ET

NEW YORK - “A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila” is apparently over for Bobby Banhart.
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The 25-year-old male film student selected last month by Tequila on her popular MTV reality dating show is no longer — or maybe never was — dating the 26-year-old bisexual Internet celebrity.

During MTV’s live New Year’s Eve programming, Tequila said that Banhart had broken up with her because of her hectic work schedule. “He couldn’t handle it,” she said. “He broke up with me.”

However, Banhart said in a Dec. 30 message posted on MySpace that “she never called me after the last show and no one would give me her number.”

The network announced Wednesday that a second season of “A Shot at Love” will air this spring and will once again feature Tequila looking for love, reality TV style, among a group of men and women.

“This time I wanna find love for real,” Tequila said during “Tila Tequila’s New Year’s Eve Masquerade 2008.”

Casting notices circulated online for a second season of “A Shot at Love” before the finale, the network’s most-watched broadcast since November 2005.

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My first thought was yeah right, this was most likely setup to be a failed relationship in the first place. I mean Tila was a star using her image for profit long before this show, and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that finding love and working for a successful happy relationship does not create a sequel, second season show to make more money for the girl, or MTV.

It may make for popular TV, but I feel sorry for the guy who got on there and won the chance at a relationship with her. Sure, he should know that going on a reality MTV to find a relationship is kind of like being invited to Jerry Springer to find good news, but I’m sure he was under the impression that there would at least be a chance for a relationship. Now it seems that he was just set up to take the fall from the beginning. Perhaps I am wrong, but that;’s me first impression with this story.

My advice first off is not to go on TV looking for love. Second bisexual women who are not even sure which sex they are more interested in will be tough to keep happy. Unless you are looking for a polygamous relationship or swinging lifestyle, keep away from the confused men and women who seem to have no preference. It can be a heartbreaking experience.

Not to say there is anything wrong with bisexual, homosexual, trisexual, or polyamorous relations whatsoever, I just think if you are trying to find a mate, it would be prudent for both people to have in mind what they are looking for in the first place. It is hard to get into a relationship when you know what you want and yet the other partner is completely oblivious as to what sex they are even interested more in. I suppose as long as you know what you are getting into it is not a bad thing to help someone find what they are looking for, as long as you are prepared to find out it may not be you, or your sex.

more on this thought tangent later…

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Today it dawned upon me that I have been used in the dating game many times over the years. At this moment I can think of several times recently when I was being used, and a few of the times I didn’t even realize it.

Used to make another jealous. I should of know this one when it happened, but I didn’t realize it until the next date. This girl I knew showed up at the same club I was at and she gets all nice and close to me talking and such and it seemed like a nice conversation. Friendly and warm, I thought it was just me (damn ego), we talked for a while and hugged goodbye. The next day I find out that she was using me to make this guy she was at the club with jealous. I guess playing the game to make him want her more or something. Now if the conversation she was having with me was genuine I guess no big deal, but if she changed the way we conversated, like getting real close, or changing body language or facial expression with the intent of making this other guy jealous, then that sucks and I do mind that.

Another being used in the dating game recent events. Maybe this is not so recent, but one getting used memory has made me think of others. The 4am booty call. We had been lovers a few years back, when she called at 4am and asked what I was doing, I knew that she wasn’t wanting me to come over and have long conversations to see if we could connect on some deeper level. I knew she wanted me to come over and have sex. Yeah, the idea sounded good to me, and the main thing I was worried about was whether or not it was going to take a lot of time to get from start to home run. I was also concerned that she may be drunk and not really wanting to hookup. Well, she wasn’t drunk, and once she answered the door in pajamas I knew we were straight to the bedroom. This is the kind of being used that I don’t mind at all. It’s fine with me because there are no false expectations, it doesn’t lead me to believe that there is a chance for us to get back together more often. It’s real.

More one this issue of being used, both good and bad, coming up in part two later.