Adult Dating Stories, and Advice

Found these tidbits in an article about body language at Web MD:

Body Language Put to the Test continued…

First dates. First dates are laden with body language signs that can help you gauge whether or not a person is interested.

“Men tend to talk a lot on first dates when they’re interested in a woman,” says Wood. “If you’re interested back, make eye contact and listen.”

If either person isn’t interested, and looks around the room and avoids eye contact, that’s a sign that a second date isn’t likely.

Other first-date tips?

“When men touch a woman on the small of her back to walk her through a door, that’s a sign of confidence and interest,” says Wood.

For women, it’s the length of their touch that measures their interest. While short, less-than-a-second touches are appropriate, touches that are too long could convey an intimate meaning.

Of course there are many other things to consider on a first, second or later date. Sometimes timing plays a crucial part of body language. Is the person you are trying to read having some other issues in life that are distracting him or her? Is the person sitting across from you being distraction simply by movement because they are facing the door or a walkway where a lot of people are going by. I generally try to avoid sitting in a position that would leave too many distracting movements in my vision if I am trying to focus on my date, but sometimes that is unavoidable.

There are many more body language clue to look for as well, we’ll go into more detail in another post.

I found an article titles “Sex and the Single Mom: What a Mom Wants” at Web MD courtesy of Redbook.

I think this is one of the things applies to most women, single mom or not, although after reading her story I can see how it would apply to a woman who has kids and has to spend so much time making the plans. A few of my favorite quotes from the story:

A friend of mine once told me that to a single working mom, the sexiest words in the English language are “I’ll take care of it.”

 It wasn’t his touch or his kiss. No, what really did it for me was his words: He started to tell me of our plans. He’d made dinner reservations at a different type of restaurant each night so that I could experience various parts of London; he had gotten theater tickets; there was a museum show he thought I might like; there were walks he wanted to take me on. He presented all this in the sweetest, least overbearing way, and I was deeply impressed — and touched — that he had put so much thought and effort into it.

 …but what really allowed me to let go (in all ways!) was the way that Daniel had taken responsibility for all the niggling logistics I was so used to dealing with, freeing me to think of other things. Or better yet, not to think at all

 But those days (and nights) with him taught me something I was in danger of forgetting: that true romance blossoms with the ability to fully depend on another person, knowing you don’t have to do everything alone.

Now I must admit I am surprised that making plans resonated in her mind as more important than his touch, but after thinking about it, I guess it makes sense. From a man’s perspective I know it is quite stressful to make all the plans, fears of setting up something that she may not enjoy can leave you wondering if you should ask about all the things you are considering. I try to find as much about my potential date before making plans. Types of music and things she enjoys doing can make it a bit easier to scan the possibilities. After reading her story though, I imagine just having everything taken care of will make for a good date, even if all the activities are not exactly the ones she would have chosen, the act of not having to choose in itself can be a little vacation. I will remember to put aside my perfectionism when planning next time and offer a mini vacation for my next date.

Wether you are going out to a club to pick up chics, or have a girlfriend who likes to go out and kick it club style, learning some dance moves will certainly make it much more fun for you and her. Today I stumbled upon a club dance DVD just for men (the site also offers a couple for women), but the most impressive thing to me about their site is the free tips that explain some of the psychology of girls in bars.

1. Always have fun. Whether its hanging with your friends, throwing back shots, dancing, or just having a conversation, make sure you’re enjoying whatever you are doing.

2. Never just stand around scoping out the club for girls to talk or dance with. If they see you doing this you might as well go home. Night’s over. You have just been placed in the same category as nearly every other guy in the club and that is the “he’s just out searching for targets” label.

In their eyes you want to be the fun, cool guy who’s out having a great time enjoying himself, chilling with his friends, dancing, grabbing drinks by the bar - that guy!

NOT someone who looks bored and tired and generally in a bad mood - because girls just want to meet guys who are fun, social and can show them a great time dancing with them.

There are many more cool tips that I had not seen put into words before, I suggest checking out the free tips for men there.

The site offers the instructional DVDs that I have not see yet, although I am considering getting a copy to check out. If you can learn a few moves, even if not done well, you;ll be doing a thousand times better than all the wallflowers who never even approach the girls that want someone on the dance floor with them. If you are taking your girlfriend out on a date, even doing some half ass dance moves can make her happy, as long as you aren’t doing the chicken dance, so this DVD may have quite a bit of value in it.

If you have seen the moves in this DVD are they pretty current? I have some old hip hop dance videos from like a decade ago, and as to where I believe that learning all the different dances that you can is a good thing, because getting moving and some rhythm can help you pick up any new dance moves better, I would hate to spend $20 for a DVD that is teaching ancient moves, I’d rather find a used copy instead. So tell if you’ve seen this video and what you think about it.