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Comment on Getting over the fear of asking someone out by Kontaktanzeigen

Kontaktanzeigen — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 07:58:40 +0000

You’re right. These fears need to be stopped for more love and more happiness in our world…

Comment on A couple body language hints for judging the first date by Jenie

Jenie — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 16:53:16 +0000

Are you sure about this one ?: “When men touch a woman on the small of her back to walk her through a door, that’s a sign of confidence and interest,”

This actually happened to me not too long ago where the guy put his arm around the small of my back multiple times during the first date (for a few seconds each time) and not just to lead me out of a door or something. Also while walking. The end result ? No second date.
How do you explain that ? I think men should stop giving us women mixed signals like these when they are not interested.

Comment on 5 breakup warning signs - signals by Frustrated Love Seeker

Frustrated Love Seeker — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 10:40:29 +0000

Lies. That’s all I need now. After seeing how a few little lies add up to the bigger picture, I will not stand for any lies in my relationship. Forget that crap about white lies, if my hair looks bad tell me. I have had so many relationships end with lie after lie. It’s almost like a white lie makes it easier for your mate to tell a bigger lie and then another.

If you can look me in the eye and lie to me, then I have wonder what other selfish things you may choose to do and lie about later. If you catch your partner in lies, it may be time to do some more investigating into what else they may be lieing about.

Often times a simple lie has led me to find many more what that came from.

Comment on 5 breakup warning signs - signals by Broken Hearted

Broken Hearted — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 10:36:02 +0000

Things I now realize I should of seen and done something about it before our break up.

One way calling and texting. I was calling him, he rarely called me. I was texting my feelings, he was texting one word replies.

The affection he showed in public and around friends completely disappeared, it was like I wasn’t claimed in front of the people around him at all.

Comment on 5 breakup warning signs - signals by Dating Again

Dating Again — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 10:24:37 +0000

Things that I have learned to watch out for:

Eyes don’t follow you - If he or she is engulfed in looking at other people and rarely meets eyes with you, I think that shows some kind of guilt. It could also be a sign of low self confidence, but I have noticed much less eye contact near the end of my relationships.

Comment on Dating a girl with kids - what is proper when MILF dating by adult friend

adult friend — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 09:06:35 +0000

It’s only been a couple of months, and I have not had to face some of the challenges that I expect will come with dating a girl with kids from a previous relationship, but I have had a few situations to contend with that are new to me.

First off, she has to have contact with previous lovers, if nothing else to coordinate things with the kids. Sometimes she has to take one of the kids to the baby daddy for visitation, and spend time there with him. This is a strange issue for me. I am friends with many ex’s and I do not ask current lovers to disconnect completely with people from their intimate past, but there is a relationship there that makes me wonder many things. When she spends time with the ex, I wonder if the whole kid bond thing will come up and add to the magnetism of a previous lover. I also wonder if she would share thoughts about us with him, and if he will try to use timing of any weakness in our relationship to try to play some kind of let’s get back and things will be better for the kids kind of thing. I suppose this would be different if the ex was hated, or dead, so it may not be an issue that would be dealt with in all milf relationships.

Second, she has to talk to the previous guys in her life, if nothing else for the kids, but does she have to talk about them? I wonder if I do this. I guess I have, I have been called out by other lovers for talking about old flames, I just wonder if there is a different jealousy dynamic going on because she has kids with this other guy.

Third, time. There is less time for us to be together, less time to talk on the phone (a positive thing for many guys, but with this girl, I want to talk to her more). Even when we do talk on the phone, often times we can’t get through a whole paragraph without kids in the background interrupting. I am not hating on the kids thing, I actually think it’s cute hearing her kids. I like the fact that she is a mom already too, it makes me realize that if we had kids she would know what to do, but there are issues dating a girl with a kid that I have not dealt with before. These are just a few of them.

I have yet to get into a relationship with the kids, I have heard from a good friend, who dated a girl with kids before they got married, that once he was over and the kids came out from thier rooms that there was a whole introduction and new friend kind of thing. That started a whole new relationship with kids.

I imagine there are psychological issues to be considered for the children, and how one acts around the kids with their mother. I have one girl that tells me not to show physical affection to her if the kids are around. Hmmm.

Certainly there are many more issues that are unique to dating a girl with kids. More on this later. Perhaps we should write a book about this.

Comment on Dating a girl with kids - what is proper when MILF dating by Dating Books

Dating Books — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 13:17:16 +0000

Found a few books that may help with your issues and concern about dating a single mom. I am glad that you have taken the time to consider these things, many men are not as sensitive to issues like these.

Books with similar subject material I found on amazon:

Mom, There’s a man in the kitchen wearing your robe - Single Mother’s Guide to Dating Well without Parenting Poorly

Sex and the Single Parent (Paperback)

and this book may be more geared toward the mom who is looking to start dating - there may be some helpful information for ya to consider within:

Sex And the Single Mom: The Essential Guide to Dating, Mating And Relating (Paperback)

Comment on going from dating to exlusive - how to break hearts lightly - breaking up by Pride

Pride — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 14:13:57 +0000

As with any part of a relationship, yes honesty is the most important part. When cutting off multiple dating partners for the sake of one specific person, however, what you say and how you say it can have consequences years down the road.
The first thing to remember when going from dating to exclusive is that its not about “them” as a whole. You have certain needs from a relationship, not necessarily sex, but closeness and intimacy from one specific person. Dating multiple people does not always fill those needs.
Also, everyone understands that you can’t always control who you fall for. Usually people will be more than understanding when you tell them that you fell for someone and would like to pursue an exclusive relationship with that person. They will also feel better about it if you say you would like to remain their friend and continue to spend time with them “as friends.”
Its not always the easiest thing in the world, but as long as you are honest and firm about your decision people will understand and support you in your decision. Also keeping that person as a friend helps you maintain your social circle and stop the fallout normally associated with breaking up.
There is one more important point I’d like to make, Don’t avoid hurt feelings. Breaking off a dating relationship is one of the hardest things to do, and is almost impossible to avoid hurting your opposites feelings. Rather avoid malicious feelings. Its alright if they feel hurt that they aren’t the right one for you, as long as you communicate that they are not any less of a person. Instead, communicate that they are still the person you love, but at this point in your life you feel like it would be better to pursue an exclusive relationship with someone else.
So be honest, and don’t send false signals. In my experience people would rather be hurt by an honest answer than find out later that you were lying to them.

Pride

Comment on many women ask where have all the good guys gone by Heather

Heather — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 03:09:18 +0000

My idea of a good guy is someone who is goal oriented, self-motivated, kind, considerate of others, and is not interested in playing Peter Pan. In other words, a good guy is an adult who is truly a good person.

Sooner or later, all of us have to grow up. I wrote, “Where have all the good guys gone?” in response to some guys I know who do not want to grow up and tend to blame their actions on scarcity of “good girls”. I have heard some wonderful guys talk about how they cannot find a girl they are interested in, but they are interested in the female equivalent of “guys that are into motocross racing, or guys that are in bands and such.”

I agree with your analysis. There is a difference between guys that will show a girl a good time and a guy that possesses a good character. It takes a good girl to recognize the difference.

Comment on using old pictures in your dating profile by Adult Dating Online - Advice about using old photos « Adult Chat

Adult Dating Online - Advice about using old photos « Adult Chat — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 01:02:12 +0000

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